A question about sexuality.

I don't really understand your question!
Surely everyone is in favour of good old fashioned frollicks?

I think this all depends on how much energy you have ;-) and how you view sex. To me, sex was always an adjunct to a loving relationship rather than the other way round.

Now, to answer your question directly, I suspect that most other men would see sex as something not necessarily linked to a relationship where as I would expect the majority of women, but certainly not all, to put the relationship first. I think this comes from basic biological programming.

I'm a heterosexual man, and other men just don't do anything for me. I don't see how that means that I'm not "secure in my sexuality": just because I enjoy sex doesn't mean that I have to be game for anything sexual. I rather think that the definition of being secure in one's sexuality is knowing what you like and what you don't like, and not having it dictated to you by the Zeitgeist.

I also don't think that lesbians are the ultimate turn-on for heterosexual men. I've known some lesbians, some pretty ones too, but I didn't harbour any hidden cravings for them. And for some reason, many lesbians seem to have a rather sexist stance against men.

From my experience, many women do find homosexual, and also bisexual, men a turn-on. Some very much so. Go figure.

Everyone has different tastes I suppose. I have known many lesbian women who think the thought of two men together is repulsive and disgusting and I am sure there are women out there who fantasize about such things. 'MOST' men have the two women together fantasy, with them involved of course! Any man who tells you that he hasn't fantasized about this at least once, is a liar! As far as being comfortable with my own sexuality, I echo the sentiments of the esteemed Poindexter. I am very comfortable with my sexuality, but I don't feel the need to think or look at a couple of gay men together. I am no homophobe by any stretch of the imagination, but it is just not my cup of tea. I have no problem with two men doing this because people should be able to do whatever or whomever they wish, within reason of course. (i.e. no children, animals, etc.) As they say you can be on a 'diet', but that doesn't mean that you are not allowed to peek at the menu from time to time! Hey, we are all human!

a friend of mine from college owns an extensive collection of gay porn - not lesbians, gay men. she's straight, but prefers that kind of material to straight/lesbian stuff.

another friend of mine (male) is completely uninterested in bisexual women or lesbians, just doesn't do it for him - and he's about as straight as you can get.

personally, it's the idea of two or more people really enjoying themselves with each other that's the turn-on. doesn't matter if they're men or women ;)